Love

Love has many meanings in English, from something that gives a little pleasure ("I loved that food") to something one would die for (patriotism, pairbonding). Now moving on…to what is love…now I’ll be focusing on the physical attraction which leads to love.
Flushed cheeks, a racing heart beat and clammy hands are some of the outward signs of being in love. But inside the body there are definite chemical signs that cupid has fired his arrow. Similarly, “I love you” commonly implies “I enjoy touching your body,” or “I enjoy believing that you will give me security or protection,” or for most people “I enjoy having sex with you” (or “I want to have sex with you.” As a result, Lacan, in his teachings about love, described the typical act of love as “polymorphous perversion.” Polymorphous simply means “having many forms.” So this amounts to saying, like the popular song from the 1980s, that we’re looking for love in all the wrong places. That is, we look for satisfaction in all the various titillating parts of the body but never find what is truly sought.
To be continued...