Love

Studies have shown that mental scans of those in love show a striking resemblance of those with mental illness. Love creates activity in the same area of the brain that hunger, thirst, and drug cravings create activity in. However the difference with these two is love is interacted in more physical manner than any mental illness.Most persons don’t realize this, but the common, or popular, view of love involves an element of receiving something. “I love chocolate” really means that “I enjoy getting the experience of the taste of chocolate.” These experience and feelings escalate one’s emotion and desire to get what they want.
Lacan points out that although “love”—that is, in its common, popular sense—is, in essence, a futile chasing after something that doesn’t exist, there is nevertheless a love beyond this “making love,” a love that exists beyond lack and limitation and that involves a sort of ecstasy of being. The irony is that in the common act of making love we think we know what we want, but it turns out to be an illusion, while this other love touches on a real experience of which we know nothing. It’s a mystical sort of thing, as Lacan acknowledges. As shocking as it might sound, most of us who claim to be “giving” or “loving” are not giving selflessly. Instead, we are addressing a covert psychological desire to avoid being abandoned. Sad to say, the apparent generosity of common love is more an act of bribery than of real love. Most men who give flowers to women, for example, are either saying, “I want to have sex with you,” or they are trying to satisfy the woman’s demand for a gift—and avoid her anger if the gift is forgotten—on a birthday or anniversary. And many parents who give excessive money or gifts to children or grandchildren are unconsciously trying to buy allegiance and favour. Unable to accept and understand the child’s deepest emotional experiences, the parent will offer an easily procurable gift to make the child feel happy. And the child, unable to consciously express the covert cover-up occurring under his or her very nose, will accept the gift under the assumption that “this must be love.”
Therefore, those who have the most to gain have the greatest desire to deceive. Those who have the least to gain—and who want nothing like the saints—can love perfectly. And this perfect, real love is no illusion. So back to the key question….what is love…I suppose…love is what you perceive and different people perceives it differently. BUT, there is no such thing as TRUE love…that is definite… how one could love someone unconditionally when we expect our love to be reciprocated…that itself is a selfish act!
That’s it…all the theory I discovered on the question of LOVE!